They say the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The same can apply to getting a divorce. Few people have looked back and thought, “I wish I waited longer to get a divorce.” Yet plenty have wished they did it sooner.
People find many reasons to delay taking that critical first step toward ending their marriage. If you’ve found yourself on the fence about the issue, understanding more about why people usually delay what may really be inevitable can help you move forward.
Divorce allows you to turn the page
You can never be sure what will happen when you turn a new page in your life, yet the only way to find out is to do it. Here are a few reasons people hold off filing for divorce longer than they should:
- For the kids: Divorce will be hard on the kids whenever it happens. Yet, having separated parents is better than living with parents who have a toxic relationship with each other.
- For financial security: Life will be financially more challenging after your divorce, especially for a woman. Yet, the sooner you start to rebuild your finances, the sooner you can repair them.
- Fear: Everyone is scared of something. People may stay in a marriage for fear of the unknown or lack confidence in their ability to survive alone. If your partner is encouraging that fear, it may be a sign they are controlling you.
- Hoping the other person will change: While people have the ability to change, it requires they are willing to put in the effort. Many are happy with who they are. You cannot make them change if they do not want to.
If and when to divorce is a personal decision, yet many people look back and wish they had done it sooner. You don’t have to be among them. Finding out more about the divorce process can help you make up your mind and make an informed decision.