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Collaborative law is essential during divorce

When you go to court over an issue that affects you and your family, it's important that you are protected and have a fair trial. For some families seeking divorce in the past, the courts weren't always fair. That has changed for them with the new Illinois Collaborative Process Act, which became effective on the first day of 2018.

This new act was a way to help same-sex couples amicably resolve their family law issues outside litigation. This was a process already used for divorces, paternity, adoptions and civil unions, but now, it is an established, codified standard.

The many ways to deal with the emotional impact of divorce

As someone going through a divorce, you're well aware of the impact it can have on things such as your finances, personal life and day-to-day living arrangements.

However, you may be surprised at the emotional impact. While you're sure to face a variety of emotions throughout the divorce process (and in the future), there are steps you can take to deal with this situation:

  • Don't hide from your emotions: Rather than run the other way, let your emotions take over your mind and body so that you can deal with them in the appropriate manner.
  • Take the time to understand your feelings: Why are you sad? Why are you angry? Why are you upset? It's one thing to experience an emotion, but another thing entirely to know why this is happening.
  • Rest your mind and body: The day in and day out grind of the divorce process can take a toll on your mind and body. Even if you're the type of person who is always on the go, it's important to rest your mind and body as necessary. If you're mentally exhausted there's a greater chance that your emotions will get the best of you.

Don’t let child custody trouble spoil your summer vacation

With the help of a parenting agreement, you should have a clear idea of what's expected of you in regards to co-parenting.

Child custody trouble can quickly spoil the summer vacation you've been looking forward to, so make sure you eliminate any potential concerns before they bog you down.

How will you prevent arguments with your ex-spouse?

If you've put your marriage in the past but still have to communicate with your ex-spouse, perhaps because you have a child together, it's important that you do whatever you can to prevent arguments.

There will be times when you disagree, but the last thing you want or need is regular arguments that begin to take a toll on your life.

High net worth divorce: Address these issues

If you've finally come to realize that divorce is the best way to improve your life, you shouldn't hesitate to push forward with the process.

While you want to move forward in an efficient manner, you also need to know what to expect along the way. For example, a high net worth divorce can bring many challenges to the divorce process.

How to ask for a prenuptial agreement (without causing trouble)

Is your wedding day getting closer? Are you hoping to discuss the creation of a prenuptial agreement with your soon-to-be spouse in the near future? Are you worried that doing so could lead to trouble?

Despite the many benefits of a prenuptial agreement, you might be tempted to never discuss this with your  fiancé because of concerns over how he or she will react. While this is a valid concern, if you have reason to believe a prenuptial agreement is a must, it can be important to have such a discussion as soon as possible. 

What’s the best way to ask for a divorce?

Maybe you and your spouse have been chatting about divorce for quite some time. Or maybe you've been thinking about this, while your spouse doesn't believe too much is wrong with your marriage.

Regardless of your situation, there may come a point when you need to ask for a divorce. This is easier said than done, but with some tips you can put yourself on the right path. Here are the things you need to do:

  • Prepare yourself for the conversation, knowing that anything and everything could be thrown your way
  • Choose the right time and place, all with the idea of remaining safe
  • Be firm in what you're saying, as you don't want to give off the impression that you're not "all in"
  • Be ready for anything in regard to your spouse's reaction, from crying to shouting to laughing
  • Don't feel that you have to discuss the details at this time, as you can get to this in the future

How does a parenting agreement impact child custody?

If you find yourself in the middle of a child custody dispute it's important to do whatever it takes to negotiate and resolve every issue.

Once you're able to do this (hopefully without much additional stress) the final details are put into writing, which is known as a parenting agreement.

Divorce mediation: Know how the process works

If you decide to divorce, it won't be long before you're learning more about mediation. While you may not know exactly what to expect, you realize that it's the best way to work through your differences to eventually put your marriage in the past.

Here are a few things you should know about the divorce mediation process:

  • The first meeting is when you sit down with the mediator to define the issues that need to be resolved
  • Additional meetings are scheduled so that you and your soon to be ex-spouse can negotiate on the issues at hand, such as child custody, property division and visitation rights
  • Once you compromise on each and every issue, the mediator will draft an agreement that outlines every last detail
  • You have the opportunity to review the agreement to ensure that it is exactly what you expected
  • The mediator will file the papers with the appropriate court

The many challenges of the divorce process

On the surface, divorce is nothing more than a process that allows you to put your marriage in the past.

While this is the most basic way of looking at divorce, there are many challenges that will move to the forefront as the days go by. If you're not ready for these, there's a chance you could make a mistake that costs you time and money, while also increasing your level of anxiety.

When you are ready to discuss your legal issue with an experienced Illinois lawyer, we will be here for you.

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