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Does a postnuptial agreement make sense?

As you move toward your wedding day, you may discuss the pros and cons of a prenuptial agreement with your partner. If you decide against creating this document, you could regret it at some point in the future.

Fortunately, you have another option to consider: a postnuptial agreement. A postnuptial agreement is similar to a prenuptial agreement, with the primary difference being that you create this after you tie the knot.

Don’t make one of these mistakes during or after your divorce

Once you decide to divorce, you may feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off your shoulders. You may also turn your attention to the future, as you realize you now have full control over every decision you make.

While it's important to make key changes that allow you to live a better life, here are some mistakes you should avoid during or shortly after your divorce:

  • Drastic changes to your appearance: For example, don't rush into getting a tattoo or plastic surgery. These may be things you do in the future, but wait until you have a clear mind before making such a big decision.
  • Don't share too much with your ex-spouse: In the event that you still have contact with your ex, such as when co-parenting, it's important to stick to the essential details. There's no reason to share information on your personal life.
  • Don't overlook the power of counseling: Divorce will change your life in many ways, so it never hurts to speak with a counselor or therapist. A few conversations can help you better understand your feelings and how to cope with them.
  • Speaking out on social media: In today's world, it's often easier to share your thoughts on social media than it is in person. Don't bad-mouth your ex on social media, as doing so will cause more harm than good.

How will you deal with the stress of divorce?

Even if you're ready to move on from your marriage, it doesn't mean there's no stress associated with the divorce process. From property division to child custody, there are many details that have the potential to cause stress in your day-to-day life.

There are many ways to deal with divorce-related stress, including the following:

  • Stick to a healthy diet: You may be tempted to overeat or indulge in junk food, but this can actually make things worse on you. A healthy diet allows you to feel good, both physically and mentally.
  • Get more exercise: When you're down and out, a good workout has a way of making you feel better about yourself. You don't have to spend hours each day in the gym. Even if you only walk or jog around the block a few times, it can do wonders for your stress level.
  • Talk it out: There's no reason to keep all your stress inside. Talk about your divorce and your feelings with those in your support system. Sometimes a simple conversation is all it takes to help you feel better.
  • Get more sleep: Stress has a way of worsening when you're not getting enough sleep. Furthermore, sleep is essential to maintaining a high level of energy, which is what you need to make it through your divorce.

How can you use virtual visitation to your advantage?

As you go through the divorce process, you understand how important it is to keep your children in mind. You want to do whatever you can to provide a routine that allows them to avoid disruption in their day-to-day life.

If you're granted visitation rights, stick with your schedule to ensure yourself of spending quality time with your children. Also, consider other ideas for remaining a big part of their life, such as virtual visitation.

Five reasons to hire a divorce lawyer

In today's modern age, the "do it yourself" (DIY) craze is in full swing. From home improvement projects to estate planning to divorce, many people assume they can tackle complex projects and issues on their own.

A DIY divorce is never a good idea, as there is a lot you don't know about the law in Illinois. Rather than go down this path, it's best to hire an experienced and knowledgeable divorce lawyer who can guide you through the process from start to finish.

5 ways to help your children during the early stages of divorce

Not only will divorce change your life in many ways, but it will also do the same to your children. Fortunately, with the right plan in place, you're able to help your children through this difficult time.

There are many steps you can take to help your children get through the early stages of divorce, with these five among the most powerful:

  • Show your love. Let your child know that you love them. Just the same, let them know that their other parent is there for them as well. If you do nothing else, let it be this.
  • Be honest. There's no good reason to lie about your divorce or the future, as the truth will eventually come out. Tell your children what they need to know in an honest manner.
  • Stick to a schedule. Divorce is difficult enough. You don't want to make it worse by jumping from one parenting or custody schedule to the next. Giving your children structure during divorce is vital.
  • Encourage communication. You need to communicate with your children before, during and after your divorce. You're not finished after one conversation.
  • Tweak schedules in the future. The visitation schedule you use today doesn't have to be the same as the one you rely on next year. As long as you and the other parent are on the same page, you can always settle on a schedule that's best for your children.

What does divorce mediation entail?

Once you decide to divorce, don't assume that you'll face off against your spouse in a family law court. While litigation is necessary at times, you'll first want to experiment with mediation.

Through mediation, you maintain a high level of control over the process. Rather than rely on a judge to make final decisions, you can negotiate with the other party to work toward a mutually beneficial agreement.

You can benefit by following these co-parenting tips

When it comes to co-parenting, there will be times when you're stuck and looking for answers. This isn't a fun place to be, but it's important to remember that there's a solution to every problem.

Here are four co-parenting tips that will change your approach for the better:

  • Be flexible with scheduling: Scheduling conflicts are common when co-parenting, so keeping some level of flexibility is a must. Don't let the other person walk all over you, but do keep an open mind.
  • Think about the other parent's feelings: Yes, you need to do what's best for you and your children. However, this doesn't mean you should go out of your way to harm your ex-spouse.
  • Don't look for an argument: There are times when you'll argue with your ex-spouse. It's a given. What you want to avoid is turning every small disagreement into a blowout argument.
  • Communication is key: An open line of communication improves the likelihood of staying on the same page. This doesn't mean you have to talk every day. It doesn't mean you have to discuss your personal life. You simply want to find a way to effectively communicate, as it makes it much easier to coordinate on a variety of details.

How should you tell your family about your divorce?

Many people spend so much time thinking of a way to tell their children about their divorce that they overlook the rest of their family.

From your parents to your siblings to your extended family, there's a good chance you'll want to inform these people about what's happening in your life.

Consider including these things in your prenuptial agreement

Many people find it difficult to create a prenuptial agreement, as it has you thinking about divorce before you ever walk down the aisle. The creation of a prenup does not mean you'll get divorced in the future. It simply means you're preparing yourself in the event that it happens.

Here are some of the many things you should consider including in your prenup:

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