Belleville Family Law Blog

When you find yourself in the middle of a divorce, it's easy to turn all your attention to the process itself. From property division to child custody, there is no shortage of details that require your attention.

All of that pressure means that it's easy to look past how important it is to maintain your health. If you don't focus on caring for yourself, you may soon find yourself feeling ill, thus making it more difficult to remain efficient and productive.

Your spouse ends your marriage, which was never a very good partnership. Or maybe it was, until it suddenly wasn't. As such, it is natural for you to also feel like you are the better parent and that your kids should live with you.

If you find yourself in this position, it is important to remember that someone does not have to be a good spouse to be great parent.

Even if you are 100 percent dedicated to making your marriage work, there could come a time when you have no choice but to consider divorce.

It's important to understand the many signs that divorce may be coming, as this gives you the opportunity to change your ways in an attempt to save your marriage. Here are some of the more common signs:

• You are never happy: Even when things are going well in your life, you are never happy with your marriage.
• You don't have positive interactions: Day after day, the majority of interactions with your spouse are negative.
• Others see your trouble: Do your friends and family constantly ask you what is going on in your marriage? Do they suggest that you move on by asking for a divorce?
• You feel more like roommates: There may come a time when you no longer feel like a married couple, but more like roommates.
• Everything turns into an argument: There is no denying that every married couple argues from time to time. However, if you find that the smallest disagreements turn into blow out arguments, something may be wrong in your marriage.

As someone going through a divorce, you're well aware of the impact it can have on things such as your finances, personal life and day-to-day living arrangements.

However, you may be surprised at the emotional impact. While you're sure to face a variety of emotions throughout the divorce process (and in the future), there are steps you can take to deal with this situation:

• Don't hide from your emotions: Rather than run the other way, let your emotions take over your mind and body so that you can deal with them in the appropriate manner.
• Take the time to understand your feelings: Why are you sad? Why are you angry? Why are you upset? It's one thing to experience an emotion, but another thing entirely to know why this is happening.
• Rest your mind and body: The day in and day out grind of the divorce process can take a toll on your mind and body. Even if you're the type of person who is always on the go, it's important to rest your mind and body as necessary. If you're mentally exhausted there's a greater chance that your emotions will get the best of you.